Oh I love the idea of Colby as a diplomat. I immediately remembered Shirley Temple as an ambassador to the UN and how tactfully, powerfully effective she was at a time when male chauvinism in government was still strongly pronounced. Colby would have that same effect I think! The person that most people cannot bear to disappoint, who is still non-judgmental and supportive. (I had a sudden flash of Colby moderating a presidential debate!) I think exploring that self-sacrificing aspect is fascinating. There's a Buddhist axiom: "Drive all blame into the self." Which is intended to prevent the error of projecting one's pain, disappointment, envy, etc. on others. The trick of course (and I 've had Buddhist teachers warn about this) is the necessity to balance what should be recognizing the Buddha nature in others and not recognizing it in one's self! I think Jason's response is perfect; letting Colby know he can safely be angry about the action without being seen as rejecting Jason, or damaging the relationship. What a fascinating story that will make...especially since Jason still carries undeserved guilt himself. A great opportunity for both of them.
Thank you for your kind thoughts; they are greatly appreciated.
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Date: 2022-01-11 12:01 am (UTC)Oh I love the idea of Colby as a diplomat. I immediately remembered Shirley Temple as an ambassador to the UN and how tactfully, powerfully effective she was at a time when male chauvinism in government was still strongly pronounced. Colby would have that same effect I think! The person that most people cannot bear to disappoint, who is still non-judgmental and supportive. (I had a sudden flash of Colby moderating a presidential debate!) I think exploring that self-sacrificing aspect is fascinating. There's a Buddhist axiom: "Drive all blame into the self." Which is intended to prevent the error of projecting one's pain, disappointment, envy, etc. on others. The trick of course (and I 've had Buddhist teachers warn about this) is the necessity to balance what should be recognizing the Buddha nature in others and not recognizing it in one's self! I think Jason's response is perfect; letting Colby know he can safely be angry about the action without being seen as rejecting Jason, or damaging the relationship. What a fascinating story that will make...especially since Jason still carries undeserved guilt himself. A great opportunity for both of them. Thank you for your kind thoughts; they are greatly appreciated.